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The Darkness of Porn…the Light of the Gospel

I just read a piece by Denny Burk and it is about pornography consumption in the USA and it is not pretty.  He covered a recent disturbing article in Time magazine on the consumption of pornography in America.

The Time article was titled “Porn and the Threat to Virility” by Belinda Luscombe.

Denny did not link the article because the cover is too explicit.

Denny makes this quote from Ms. Luscombe:

A growing number of young men are convinced that their sexual responses have been sabotaged because their brains were virtually marinated in porn when they were adolescents. Their generation has consumed explicit content in quantities and varieties never before possible, on devices designed to deliver content swiftly and privately, all at an age when their brains were more plastic—more prone to permanent change—than in later life. These young men feel like unwitting guinea pigs in a largely unmonitored decade-long experiment in sexual conditioning.

Burk says that the Luscombe article goes on to say that “what these young men have been consuming for the last decade and what the results have been in their adult relationships with real women. Many of them are simply unable to experience a sexual response with a real live woman. They are only able to respond to pornography.”

But it gets darker that that!  They prefer pornography to a woman.

To see the progression into the dark world of pornography this data gives the macro view:

Two dates are important to remember in this discussion. In 2007, broadband internet reaches over 50% of American households. In 2013, smartphone ownership exceeds 50% of the population. That means that at some point around 2007, more Americans than not had access not simply to still images but to free video images of people engaged in sex acts. By 2013, more Americans than not had access to video porn at any time and at any place through their smartphone.

The average age that a young man first encounters pornography is 11-13 years old. That means that countless young men have spent the better part of the last decade with access to moving porn. For many of them, everything they have learned about sex has come from pornography. Their sexual preferences have been shaped by this content.

And what about this content? It is not an accident that Playboy magazine stopped publishing pictures of nude women last year. There is no market for that anymore. And it’s not just because of the new internet delivery method. It’s because these young men aren’t interested in simple images of naked women.

It gets worse…

The big question is not about whether one ought to use porn or not. The big question is whether or not porn use is a “public health crisis.” In other words, the main problem with porn is not moral or spiritual but that it keeps men from fornicating with lots of women.

This article is the latest evidence of our diminishing ability to speak about sex in moral terms. We are at a place in our culture in which sexual morality has been reduced to consent. Our society has embraced total sexual license. If anyone suggests any other moral norm beyond consent, they are dismissed as a puritanical, repressive throwback. And that is why Luscombe’s article—even after narrating the devastating consequences of porn use—cannot bring itself to condemn pornography as a moral evil. And that is what is so sad about this article. It documents a real problem in our culture, but it has very little to offer by way of remedy.

The sexual revolution promised us more sex and more pleasure. It has actually delivered to us a generation of men who think of women as objects to be used and abused for their sexual pleasure.

It has not given us men who know what virtue and honor are. It doesn’t teach men to pursue their joy in self-sacrificially loving and being sexually faithful to one woman for life. It teaches young men to use women for sex and then to discard them when they become unwilling or uninteresting. This means that it has given us a generation of young men completely unprepared for marriage and for fatherhood.

Exclamation point times 3 (!!!).

This brokenness is all around us and among us. It is the burden of far too many of the men sitting in our pews. I don’t know of any other problem that has done more to subvert manhood and marriage than porn use. It is killing us.

Porn cannot deliver what it promises. … … It tastes good for a moment, but it leaves a young man hollow and hungry. It doesn’t deliver joy. It brings longing and discontent and a hunger that can never be satisfied. If you keep going back for more, it will kill you in the end.

At the end, Burk points to Jesus and His transforming power.   That is the only power that can deliver us from whatever our sin-clinations  are.  We are all broken by something and in some areas. We ALL need the deliverance that Jesus, through His blood, offers.  Cleanse me oh LORD!

Here is one response to the Denny Burk article:

There you see the attack on the family, down to the neuroscientific level. Brilliantly evil. Think about what you might be setting your son up for by giving him a smartphone. A junior high school principal said to me recently that she invited a specialist in porn addiction to give a talk at her school about this, but parents balked, saying their kids didn’t even know what that was. Fools.

This is not simply a matter of getting a smartphone out of your kid’s hands. Remember my telling you about the family I know who removed their kids from a school because fifth grade boys in her son’s class were watching hardcore porn on smartphones their parents gave them? The boys were building a pornified culture of boyhood. Fifth graders.

How much do you know about the porn habits of your teenage or adolescent son and his friends? It’s important to find out.

Other response:

Ian Shaw April 4, 2016 at 4:12 pm  #

Viewing porn affects the brain in the same way that heroin does. It is hard to break the chains but there is freedom in Christ.

Rob Wallace April 4, 2016 at 9:49 pm #

As a Grandad, I am in the natural, fearful of the world my Grandkids are starting to navigate. There are so many more subtle and tempting opportunities lying in wait for this next generation that were not around when I was a teenager. Men, develop meaningful relationships with those that are following you through on life’s journey, so that you can mentor and guide them through the minefield that’s before them. Our grand daughters need to be able to sift out those that have been polluted by this deception and find men of character that have walked a different path.

Sarah April 5, 2016 at 6:20 pm #

I am a newlywed of 14 months, with a brand new baby, and a marriage in shambles. I am 25 years old, and I am already struggling with a hopeless marriage in the wake of 15+ years of my husbands life being addicted to porn and self-pleasure. We (women) are not made to be able to combat this. We don’t understand it, we can’t comprehend it, but we CAN comprehend the devastatingly painful effects it has on us, our identity, our self worth, and our trust. We simply can’t compete, and, as much as our husbands tell us it’s “not personal” it is. To us, it’s extremely personal. I am so sad to think of my husband as a child, stumbling upon this evil that has enslaved him and brought so much heartbreak and struggle to our marriage

There is hope for Sarah.   Many people commented that she has hope and so does her husband.   I was so glad to see the outpouring of love and direction from Denny’s followers.

Read the full piece here.

Related:

What does Pornography do to the Brain?
Pornography as Public Health Hazard
Arrest for Child Pornography
Tumblr Banned over Pornography
Japan Bans Child Pornography

 

 

 

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